‘She has no concept of responsibility’: Woman kicks entitled stepmom out of her apartment after she flakes on babysitting her 2-year-old and 5-year-old children to go partying

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  • "She told me and my husband that 'she has power over us' and how 'she was my mom.""
  • "AITA for backing up my husband who had told my stepmom to ‘Grow up or get out?’"

    This isn't on my main acc as I want genuine opinions I (34 F) and husband (37 M) and stepmom (52 F) My stepmom has been helping us out by babysitting my 2 children
  • (2 and 5) and while me and my husband are very grateful, we are very upset with her. My stepmom recently was divorced by my father. My stepmom had no where to go so she had asked to stay with us. I hadn't had a
  • great relationship with her for stealing stuff I had bought with my money when I was 17 however I decided to push past this and move on. When she moved in, we went over rules and told her what her experience would look like.
  • She agreed to our rules, which included buying food for herself when necessary, although we did tell her we would mostly be buying stuff for her so she could get back on her feet. Another rule we had was babysitting.
  • We would agree to pay her for babysitting our kids when we needed her so that she could make some money to get back on her feet. We gave her our job contact info had she ever
  • needed to call them if she couldn't get ahold of us while we were at work. Recently, we haven't really been needing her to babysit but she has been insistent on paying for food items. We went over
  • the fact that this wasn't needed and she replied that she wanted to feel like she had more power over us by paying for food. I gently reminded her that this was our house and she was a guest in it to which she got ped. She
  • told me and my husband that "she has power over us" and how "she was my mom". I didn't reply and just stopped talking to her.
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  • My husband had made plans with her that we would need her to babysit our kids this past Monday and she had agreed to it since we were both going to work. I am at work when
  • my work receives a call from my husband telling me that my stepmom called him saying that she was leaving to go party with her friends, and he
  • was going back home to talk to her. I agree that he is doing the reasonable thing since she has no concept of responsibility. I then, while at work receive a call from my stepmom
  • who had said that my husband said that she needed to grow up and gain responsibility or get out. I, of course sided with my husband and she hung
  • up. The next morning, whilst driving home I noticed my stepmoms car wasn't in my driveway and I asked my husband about it, to which he replied "she chose to get out".
  • I have been trying to reach my stepmom for days but she nor my step-sister (whom she moved in with) will hold a conversation with me and my stepmom will not apologize.
  • I'm starting to feel like the AH since neither of them will respond to me. Did I overreact and overstep for basically kicking her out?
  • EDIT 1: I disliked her when I was 17, didn't really talk to her and then decided to give her another chance based on step sis who had a problem similar to mine which stepmom was able
  • to apologize and grow from. The original reason she moved in with me and not step sis is because she is having a rough time paying the rent, also we would pay stepmom and she wouldn't.
  • crazymastiff NTA. And never contact her again. This was a power move to show that she did in fact have some power over you and the fact that you are trying to contact her is proving her point. She lives that you're reaching out and she's not answering... because it gives her even more power over you!
  • Rare_Sugar_7927 NTA and be grateful you got rid of her that easy. Wash your hands of her. If she wants to have a decent adult relationship with you she can get in touch and apologize. Right now, enjoy the peace of not having someone who "has power over you" cos was that about??

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